A Letter to the Friends Who Aren’t Part of My Life Anymore
Dear whomever you may be,
We probably haven’t talked in a while. I’ve got a poem for you:
Sometimes people come into your life and you know
right away that they were meant to be there, to serve
some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson, or to help
you figure out who you are or who you want to become.
You never know who these people may be – a roommate, a
neighbor, a professor, a friend, a lover, or even a
complete stranger – but when you lock eyes with them,
you know at that very moment they will affect your
life in some profound way.
Sometimes things happen to you that may seem horrible,
painful, and unfair at first, but in reflection you
find that without overcoming those obstacles you would
have never realized your potential, strength,
willpower, or heart.
Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness,
and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of
your soul. Without these small tests, whatever they
may be, life would be like a smoothly paved straight
flat road to nowhere. It would be safe and
comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless.
The people you meet who affect your life, and the
success and downfalls you experience, help to create
who you are and who you become. Even the bad
experiences can be learned from. In fact, they are
sometimes the most important ones.
If someone loves you, give love back to them in
whatever way you can, not only because they love you,
but because in a way, they are teaching you to love
and how to open your heart and eyes to things.
If someone hurts you, betrays you, or breaks your
heart, forgive them, for they have helped you learn
about trust and the importance of being cautious to
whom you open your heart.
Make every day count. Appreciate every moment and take
from those moments everything that you possibly can
for you may never be able to experience it again. Talk
to people that you have never talked to before, and
listen to what they have to say.
Let yourself fall in love, break free, and set your
sights high. Hold your head up because you have every
right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual and
believe in yourself, for if you don’t believe in
yourself, it will be hard for others to believe in
You can make anything you wish of your life. Create
your own life and then go out and live it with
absolutely no regrets.
And if you love someone tell them, for you never know
what tomorrow may have in store.
Learn a lesson in life each day that you live! Today
is the tomorrow you were worried about yesterday. Was
it worth it?
So there you have it. I know that people always come and go, but I seem to have a tendency to love people even when they leave my life. So chances are I still really care about you, and I’ll always be there for you if you need me. I’ll be here to support you and cheer you on as you keep progressing.
For the friends that just drifted away: I’m glad you got to be part of my life regardless of how long. I do believe that every person that has been part of my life has taught me something. I’m sorry we aren’t as close as we used to be, but that doesn’t change how I feel about you! Even if you don’t tell me every day or even every week how life is going for you, I hope everything is working out well. You deserve to be happy.
For the people that chose to leave: I’m not sure if you chose to leave because I scared you away, you were looking for something and I wasn’t it, if I hurt you, or if you hurt me and thought leaving was the best option. I hope you haven’t tried to decide that I can’t still love you after what you happened. You know I probably miss you, right? You didn’t have to go, and I would let you back in if you wanted to.
For the people whose lives I have walked out of: I’m sorry. I like to think that I had a good reason, but doesn’t everyone? I am sorry if I’ve hurt you by removing myself.
Writing to people that you don’t contact often if at all is kind of scary, it’s like putting out feelings and not knowing where they are going and what you might receive in return. But, I wanted to say something, because I’ve had a lot of different people in my life.